The desire to help the family earn a living has caused many women, especially mothers, to spend part of their time outside the home on the same level as men.
Although these joint efforts aimed at earning a living, and can be considered positive, they have a number of consequences, the most important of which is that, due to the lack of presence of the parents' home, children have gaps in their upbringing.
If the parents have no one to leave their child with, to give it to the kindergarten remains their only way out.
Of course, we are used to what is often said about the role of kindergartens and their employees in the upbringing of children. Nevertheless, according to experts, parents themselves play the main role in the correct education of the child at any age and development of his personality.
Mothers at work: effects on children's well-being
According to the 2011 population census conducted by the Iranian Statistics Center, the number of working citizens is 20055 thousand people, of which 1,703,000 are men and 2,072,000 are women.
According to the results of the same census, among employed women over 15 years of age 61% have a family and 30% are single.
What do working parents say?
Although many specialists emphasize the importance of the participation of both parents in the upbringing of the younger generation, the main burden of responsibility in this respect lies precisely on the mother, for it is her duty to ensure the spiritual and psychological needs of the child. It is important that the limited relationship between mother and child has negative consequences.
Farzane - one of those working moms, who is forced every morning to wake her two-year-old and even in a cold frost to take him to his grandparents or a kindergarten.
She says: "When I come home, my child after a few hours of active games in kindergarten quickly falls asleep, and I only hear through a dream, how he breathes."
Mohammad, the father of two children of four and seven, also tells that his wife is also busy working outside the home, so only two times a week they can devote to raising children, but this is not enough.
Lida has exactly the same problems as Farzan and Mohammad. According to her, when she is next to her child, she can fully control the process of his upbringing, but if she leaves him for several hours, then the upbringing is already shifted to someone else and she does not know what he is learning.
Inattention to the upbringing of children
Professor of Sociology, Islamic University Azad - the largest in Iran and the entire Middle East non-state higher educational institution - in an interview with a social correspondent of the news agency IRNA discussed the problem of working mothers and their participation in the upbringing of the child. As she claims, many of these women face serious problems in the upbringing of their children and this is of great concern.
Alie Shekarybeygi is convinced: "Due to the mother's professional employment, the upbringing of children in the family is not paid attention, so these functions are transferred to different social collectives, for example kindergartens, or grandmothers with grandparents."
"Working mothers," she continues, "come home too tired, so their children suffer from a lack of education."
According to the professor, those children who receive enough attention and affection from both parents do not face the problem of different educational approaches.
Working mothers should not show at home their fatigue
The director of the Iranian Social Assistance Society believes that now, due to the transformation of the social structure and the development of needs, the role of parents, especially mothers, has changed greatly compared to traditional society.
Professor Seyed Hassan Mousavi, in an interview with the journalist of the social department of IRNA, adds: "Women who get higher education start working in managerial or social spheres naturally can not take care of their children either at home or at work, so they have to at least for a few hours a day to give them to kindergartens. "
"Kindergartens," he continues, "carry out only a part of their parental responsibilities, besides, the child feels completely differently next to family members and next to the tutor."
Explaining the influence of a child's prolonged stay in kindergarten, the psychologist notes the following: "If a child stays in the garden for a long time, from seven to ten hours in a row, this negatively affects his emotional state. For example, he begins to fear that he will be separated from his father and mother, daily experiencing stress and anxiety. "
Professor Mousavi describes other negative consequences of the child's stay in the kindergarten as a decrease in self-confidence and lack of creative abilities, but notes: "Of course, given the skills that are acquired in kindergartens, it is likely that not all children have such negative consequences" .
The psychologist adds: "We must admit that there are such gardens that provide high educational opportunities and can have a positive impact on the formation of children's creative activity."
At the same time, he emphasizes that none even the best kindergarten will replace the home environment, and continues: "It is likely that these institutions do have a beneficial effect on the child's social development process, but all the same mothers should devote more time to their children" .
Professor Mousavi also stresses that working mothers should not show at home their fatigue, on the contrary, they should maintain closer relations with children in order to somehow compensate for their long absence.
To summarize, it is worth noting that in our time, the upbringing of children and caring for them is one of the most worthy and at the same time the most difficult duties of parents.
Parents, especially working mothers, being at home, should give children much more time. Undoubtedly, this approach, in addition to the correct education of the child, will help create conditions for its adequate development in the bosom of a caring and loving family.
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